Are you warm and fuzzy?

by Lori Greenberg on January 27, 2007

in Blah blah blah

New Ruffled BeadThe other day I was writing an email to a business group that I belong to and I wondered, once again, how do I come across to people?  I know how unintentionally misleading emails, or IMs or even a chat can be.  You think you know someone from what you read in their emails or on forums but when you meet them they can be really different.  And other times, they’re exactly like you expected. 

But that’s not really what I’m talking about.  You see, someone had written to the list asking for help and feedback on something that was very frustrating for them.  My response was to give that help.  It wasn’t anything that really asked for an opinion but more like, ‘who would you recommend’and why?’  So that’s what I did.  After I sent it I noticed that someone else responded more along the lines of ‘I’m so sorry you have to deal with that.’  And I thought, how cold am I?  You’d never believe that I have an advance degree in counseling by the straightforward, matter-of-fact, problem solving answer I gave, void of any compassion at all.  That got me to wondering, and I don’t know if I really want to know the answer, but, how do I come across?  I think I can come across a lot different than I am.  It’s my age-old issue of caring too much about what people think.

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Spandex and Hairspray…

by Lori Greenberg on January 26, 2007

in Blah blah blah,Quirky,blogging

Monet EarringsEvery once in a while I click on one of those links that will take you to a random web site under a given category.  I think they’re called ‘Rings’, or at least they used to be.  That sounds kind of outdated to me though.  This time I clicked on a link to go to a random blog.  Now, that’s pretty wide open.  It took me to a blog where the woman writes about her life growing up in the 80s.  Spandex and Hairspray.  Now, while that could be boring talking about big hair and parachute pants (unless it’s done right, of course, then it could be hilarious if that was your time) it sounds like it would be a blast (does that sound 80s?) to write about your specific life during your school years.  Meaning, writing about all of the old boyfriends, girlfriends, teachers, parties, angst, fun, etc.  That also could be boring considering you don’t know any of the people being talked about.  Again, it would have to be done well.

I’ve thought about that.  Writing about old boyfriends and friends and some of the crazy things we did but I always stopped myself because, for one, I don’t want someone googling their own name and leading them right to me, and two, I don’t know how flattering it would all be and I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.  Not that they would ever even know my blog exists but you gotta write expecting that the last person you’d expect to read it will.  And not that it would be a bad thing if someone found me.  It’s funny…I guess I’m more weirded out about people I’ve known, reading about my life than total strangers that I’ve never met before (you) reading about my life.

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Find the fake smile…

by Lori Greenberg on January 25, 2007

in Blah blah blah,Quirky

How well do you think you can read people?  Try this:  Find the fake smile.  I did better than I thought.  What about you?

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